Our thoughts and emotions are of the body, not of the soul. We experience pain and pleasure at the level of the human—they are the result of physical reactions (hormone increase, nerve firings) to external influences that we perceive as good or bad. But to the Soul, these events are not good or bad, they are just experiences.
The events and people we encounter in our lives are results of the Soul’s requirement for experiences of suffering, all as part of our path to enlightenment. We ask for everything. But we forget about this, and spend a lot of energy resisting everything that feels difficult and unpleasant. (Every time we resist the lesson, the Soul will continue to find a way to bring the lesson. If we ignore the lesson when it manifests at a small level, the Soul will bring the lesson again, at a more intense level.)